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In The Know

Hello and welcome back!

I wanted to continue the talk today about ineffective habits, explaining why these habits may be difficult to change. Hopefully, you have been succeeding with last weeks assignment, but if not, I will add some more encouragement. If your good, I’ll see you next week. I took on last weeks assignment myself, because I grasp the idea; what we teach we most need to learn. I certainly had something in my life I wanted to change. At the end I’ll tell you if I did …

We all have something in our lives that doesn’t work, support or benefit us. I could get into the details on how an unwanted habit started, but I realized it isn’t necessary. Plus I want to focus on where we are and where we want to go versus why it began or where it originated, as it serves no purpose. You know where you are, you know where you want to go, so now decide how you will get there.

Thinking back to successful changes I’ve created in my life I recognized I couldn’t do it and worry about it at the same time. I needed to remain focused on what was working and what felt right. As you search for ways to change you may find a system, idea, or plan that may have parts that work and parts that don’t. It is up to you to figure out what is best for you. You may pick and choose between several different plans to come up with one specific system for you. Like an eye doctor, ask yourself, “which is better, this one or this one?”

Here’s a simple example; A friend, after the birth of her child, wanted to record all her child’s milestones, but kept forgetting & instead scattered notes throughout the house. She couldn’t quite make it a habit to retrieve the baby book, record according to the books suggestions. She was afraid she’d miss out on something special for her baby. We found a solution that worked, we installed a calendar in her bathroom to record her child’s first year. Plus others could jot down something to the child as well.

If you truly want relief from a habit, or remove one entirely, or change it to benefit you, you have to keep at it. You get to where you want to be by being persistent, taking consistent steps toward what you do want, if you feel your way toward the prize you will be the victor. If you expect to win you will.

I tried to quit smoking 3 times before I was successful. The first time, when I found out I was pregnant, I quit cold turkey. Once the baby was born I began smoking again. The second time someone made a promise to me if I quit smoking. I quit and a year later the reward wore off and I began again. The third and final time my doctor asked me if I would consider quitting. When she asked me it felt right. So, I promised I would quit before my next visit, a year later. This time I prepared and expected a successful outcome. I researched all the different ways to quit, from the gum to meditation. I interviewed people who had been successful at quitting and I recalled all the things that worked in the two years I had been smoke free. After deciding I would use a product (the patch) to help me I picked a date, it was six months after my appointment. I acknowledged my biggest worry, which was I may gain weight, but instead of dwelling on the fear I quickly came up with a plan, again recalling past accomplishments, and put it in place right away, before I quit. I stayed focused on everything that felt good, on what was working, and on May 5, 2013 I celebrated my eleventh year anniversary being smoke free! And the challenge I took on last week changed today!

You can have any habit from losing your keys to continuously running late or needing to shop less, whatever it is if you follow these step you can accomplish anything too!

1. You can’t do it and worry about it at the same time. Decide to release worry.
2. Recall earlier accomplishments and what worked for you in the past.
3. As you are determining your plan to change what doesn’t work feel your way to your sweet spot. If something doesn’t feel right it may not be for you, tweak or adjust it or try something else.
4. Be consistent. Continually checking in with how you are doing and celebrate every step!

You got this!
~Sandy

 

 

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Life is an inside job

Hello & welcome back! 

Finding your own personal organizing system or style is about taking action. Not to be confused with fixing something that is broken within you, justifying or excusing why you are the way you are, or belittling yourself because you think it is your fault you can’t grasp others organizing systems. Look at the organizing offerings, in periodicals & on television, as someone who found what worked for them & was hoping it would work for others. And some parts may, but usually not everything. Instead of picking & choosing, applying what does work & ditch the rest, we scurry to scrap the whole thing, blame ourselves or their system & hide behind our old habits. We find our time & energy focused on & applying what doesn’t work which keeps us out of balance.

Did you know one of our most important functions is to be in balance? And, for the most part, our emotions are the clue AND the answer. Our bodies also alert us when we are out of balance with unexplained aches & pains & even accidents, & illnesses. Even when we’re ecstatic & over joyed we are out of balance. Our bodies will search for balance, it will release the energy through crying or laughing or we’ll feel antsy like we can’t sit still. To help bring harmony or balance to ourselves we must get in touch with our instincts or, if you prefer, our inner selves. Because we are out of touch with our feelings or intuition we have gotten ineffective with our personal lives, some are even suffering. We rarely use our emotions to navigate our world, we either choose to, or have been taught to run from them instead. Our emotions have invaluable information, yet we keep looking away, ignoring or avoiding them. When feelings arise they are nudges, red flags, stop signs, begging for our attention. Unfortunately, we often blame others for causing our feelings to peek through the fog, however no one has the power to do that, no one. Being uncomfortable (with negative feelings) is your inner self, your intuition, alerting you to wake up, pay attention, it is calling you into action. If you do not heed the warning you will continue to experience the same things over & over again until you do. Sometimes it takes a crisis.  

You, your life, your body, your spirit, wants to be in alignment, in balance, & the only way is to find your personal sweet spot, which is inside you & only you can access it. True, it takes work & once you give up your struggles (what doesn’t work) & you find your balance the reward is a satisfied & fulfilling life. Everything that isn’t working isn’t working for a reason, it is so you can find what does work & get on with living, & enjoying your life.

At this point you may be wondering what does being disorganized have to do with being balanced? Anything that doesn’t work in your life, no matter what area, means you are out of balance. With the skills I was born with, seeing order & being efficient, was instrumental in my own discovery of what created my own balance & what caused disharmony. What came naturally to me I saw others struggle with. No matter what subjects, relationships, weight, or financial, I wrote about, the bottom line is everything comes down to learning to get back in touch with ourselves. Listening to your intuition, through feelings, is the only way to find your balance. I focus my business & this blog on helping others get organized because I know being disorganized & having too much clutter (not just in material things) is causing disharmony in your life. Once you find your sweet spot in one area so many other areas open up in miraculous ways!

We can agree you know what doesn’t work &, if you’ve kept up with your homework, what your ideal environment feels & looks like (& we will get there). This week I want you to take inventory of what doesn’t work, all your organizing challenges, & please be specific. For example, an overstuffed bedroom closet, continuously running late, losing my keys, & too many/much ______ (fill in the blank), etc.  For the second part I’d like you to think of what the opposite might be. For “lost” keys, you may write, “find” them a home. Complete your list choosing the opposites. Now, the third part is to imagine what steps could be taken to get to the opposites. Staying with the keys, you may write- place a hook by the door you frequent. Maybe buy a lanyard or hook to attach them to you. Maybe become disciplined to put them in your pocket or purse when not in use. In other words there are many ideas, the trick is to find the one that works for you. Pick one from your list & give it honest effort for, let’s say, a week. If what you picked is easy & effortless then you picked the one that fits you best, carry on. However, if you find it to be a struggle or a hassle your instincts are letting you know that doesn’t work for you, just tweak it or try something different. You want your habits to work for you, instead of being a prisoner to your habits. Continue to work your list exploring & discovering not only your sweet spot, but you too.  One more thing… have fun!

Next week I’ll write about the importance of good tools! 

~Sandy