Hello and welcome back!
Living with Mr. Disorder.
He comes into your home, but does not allow you to have any guests over, he likes you all to himself. He wants your full attention, and even though you find him annoying and needy you give in. Unfortunately to keep Mr. Disorder you may neglect you friends and family. Because of Mr. Disorder’s disruption you can’t concentrate on anyone or anything else anyway. He is making you tense and grumpy, but instead of kicking him out you snuggle up with him in your sweats and watch TV together. Sometimes you stay away as long as you can, spending more money than you have, or maybe you remain at the office until you’re exhausted.
What has he brought into your home?
He brought you chaos and dirty dishes. He brought mounds of dirty clothes and unfinished projects along with promises he’ll get to them, but never does. He left a stain or two, he denies it, on your floor and has mixed piles of paper with some of your important documents and bills. He brought games he doesn’t play and DVD’s he doesn’t watch. He leaves the shower dirty, along with spots on the mirror and he doodles his name in the dust. He doesn’t get rid of the clothes that don’t fit he just throws them on the treadmill he brought. He has a ton of books and magazines, but you’ve never seen him read. He brought roller skates and a bowling ball, but he doesn’t leave the house. He has several unpacked boxes. He says they were Aunt Mitilda’s things before she died. He doesn’t like any of it, but was appalled when you suggested he give them away. And he nearly bit your head off when you implied the gifts he received, but never used go to a consignment or thrift shop. He takes up so much room he is suffocating you.
How do you deal with Mr. Disorder?
He doesn’t like vacations so he makes you stay home. You don’t host anything, because he doesn’t like company. You don’t get invited out, because he makes you late or hides the invitation. He hides your keys as well. He begs for more stuff so you give in, although furious you are wasting your money. He talks you into finding bargains and going to yard sales to buy others cast-offs, he calls it a treasure hunt you call him a pain. You find yourself buying promises of happiness hoping to stop Mr. Disorder from making you so miserable. He keeps hiding Freedom from Clutters phone number.
Here is how you evict Mr. Disorder.
You must go slow or he’ll get suspicious. Take baby steps and create habits to change yourself and rid yourself of Mr. Disorder. As you gather the clutter put it in a box or bag and immediately put it in the trash or take it to a donation center before he notices it is gone. Keep doing this just a few minutes every day. If he notices the open space and cleared counters and table tops he may demand more stuff. Tell him you’re selling the place. You have to get it presentable. You want him to have faith and give you a little support. Focus your attention on how it feels to have open space, to have clothes that look good and fit you. Notice what it feels like to take action and give to others who don’t have much. How nice it is to park in your car in the garage and to know where your keys are. How happy being organized and clutter free feels. And the next time you are in a store and you hear Mr. Disorder demanding more stuff leave him on a shelf for someone else to bring him home.